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Single? Or in a relationship?
Recently a girl’s personal profile drew my interest about the issue of honesty in associating with people. Her status shows “Single” which apparently means no relationship is going on in her life now. However, I don’t think her boyfriend would agree with this single statement she placed on her online profile.

Frankly, I am curious about her motivation of pretending to be single. Maybe, she just prefers to be single or she is not that into him. There could be plenty reasons. But who knows?

When talking about the honesty, how many of us can be fully candid in our relationships? While thinking of the chances of having someone else better, concealing the existence of our partners may be a good way making us still available to others. If we choose not to confess the truth, if I can see someone else at the same time? These people can never be satisfied. They are either hunger for being loved or can’t find themselves a sense of security in a relationship.

I’ve been talking about cheating for so many times. We lie because we can’t face the true longing hiding deeply in out heart. This is kinda pathetic, isn’t it?

The meaning of love can’t be elucidated but the meaning of life; on the other hand, does exist in our heart. We all know what is good for ourselves, but few of us have ever thought of the possibility of doing something good to the others. Most people in love are selfish and this is sad.

She put single on her status column; he says he is in a relationship now. Who is the liar? Does this really matter? I am not ridiculing the contradiction of their understanding of relationship but just curious. As what I’ve said, there can be lots of reasons. She may just wanna leave anytime she likes or this single thing could be used as a bargaining chip to make the boy care more about her. Still, who knows?



單身？或是戀愛中？
最近一個在交友網站上認識的女孩，她的交往狀態引起了我對探討感情忠誠度的興趣。原本該是有穩定交往中男友的她，卻奇妙的在她的個人資料中放上了「單身」的字眼。當然，我不明白為何她的男友可以接受這種等於間接否認他們之間關係的說法，但這其中真正的原因，除了當事人誰也沒法瞭解。

會想說些有關於在感情中欺騙的故事，除了這女孩，也因為在別人的報台讀到一篇有關於出軌與第三者的文章。
也許是我一向太直線條，也懶得說謊。對於感情破裂的處理方式，我一向都會選擇對另一半開誠布公，也許找出問題所在試著解決，也或著就這麼分手。對於那種騎驢找馬，劈腿等行為，我並不會考慮。會這樣並不是因為我人格有多高尚，只是純粹厭惡說謊，圓謊等需要耗費許多腦力的行為。我很懶得去欺騙，但對於那些試圖否認另一半存在的人，除了好奇他們的動機，也想明白這樣是否值得去賭上一段感情？

那女孩也許只是比較喜歡單身的字眼，也或許她並沒有那麼在乎她的另一半。又或著這樣做只是為了引起男孩的注意，利用一種我隨時可以走人的不在乎態度去讓對方更在乎自己。不論是什麼原因，我總覺得這種玩弄感情的人都只是因為無法從感情中獲得滿足，說謊只是為了讓自己感受到那麼一點的安心。

某天跟朋友討論到出軌的問題，每個人都異口同聲的譴責第三者的不是。第三者也許可惡，但那些管不住自己的心，心猿意馬的人不是更該為出軌付出代價。

我認識很多喜歡否認自己有女友的男生，這麼做無不是希望在別的女孩面前保有自己的身價。但不論這女孩是怎麼想的，單身這說法看在認識她的人們眼裡，的確有那麼一些弔詭與突兀。

嘿，妳不是已經有男朋友了嗎？